It’s hard to believe now, but there was a time when men actually wanted to keep a low profile, especially when tabloids were just starting to take over. Fast forward to today, and we might finally understand why Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck haven’t filed for divorce yet. Apparently, they’re not even on speaking terms, and that’s mostly Ben’s doing. JLo is reportedly furious, but Ben’s trying to avoid humiliating her by dragging her through yet another public breakup.
Ever get jealous when someone flirts with your partner? Yeah, JLo isn’t having any of that nonsense.
JLo is fed up with being painted as the villain in her relationship with Ben Affleck. She’s reportedly on the brink of spilling some serious tea about Ben, letting everyone decide who the real bad guy is. Ever since rumors of their split started spreading, JLo’s been the butt of all the jokes—just like what happened 20 years ago. But now, she’s fighting back, accusing Ben of using her for money, hooking up with his ex, and starting a smear campaign against her.
And if you think that’s bad, it gets worse: Allegedly, Ben has been funding his addictions with JLo’s money, and she’s done covering for him while he plays the innocent victim. But here’s the thing—is JLo still secretly hoping that Ben will come to his senses and call off the divorce? Or is this all about getting back at him for the way he’s embarrassed her? Let’s break it down.
The signs were all there. Just look at this guy—he’s an Academy Award-winning writer whose film won Best Picture. He knows how to spot a hit, and maybe even more importantly, he knows when something’s going to flop. He did everything but beg her, “Please, don’t do this to us.” When he first read the script, you can almost imagine him saying, “Babe, baby…”
It seems like Ben Affleck doesn’t know his wife as well as he thought. If he did, he’d realize there’s no way she’d let him come and go from her life as he pleases. And if the rumors are true, Ben might be ready to leave JLo, but JLo isn’t ready to let him go.
Ben pretty much showed he was done with the marriage when he secretly bought a $20 million home for himself without telling JLo. And if that wasn’t enough, he moved his stuff out of their $60 million mansion while she was away on vacation. He even skipped her big Bridgerton-themed birthday party, even though she went all out and looked like she was having a great time. It didn’t take long for rumors to start flying that Ben was ready to end the marriage, but JLo was the one holding off on the split.
If you missed it, the first signs of trouble showed up a few months ago when Ben and JLo were spotted without their wedding rings. What kind of newlyweds take off their rings just two years into the marriage? A source later confirmed that things had been tense at home for a while. Even though they were technically still together, they were living apart. According to the source, “Jen and Ben’s relationship isn’t over yet, but they’ve been staying in separate homes, and the tension has been high. They’re taking some time to figure out what each of them is going through and what they really want. Both of them have been feeling really down.”
Back in May, everything seemed fine for the couple, but now, in August, things have taken a nosedive. What makes it even worse is that JLo is dealing with the same issues she faced years ago, while Ben is just coasting through it like nothing’s wrong. You wouldn’t even guess that he was the one who begged her to give him another shot.
A source spilled the tea, saying, “She’s furious. He’s humiliated her, and it was his idea to get back together.” Honestly, Ben should quit his masterclass on “how to win over women without putting in any effort,” because he somehow convinced JLo that he was so madly in love with her that she ended up dropping $20 million on a project about their love story. She might as well have used that cash to stock up on her favorite bodega snacks.
The insider added, “It’s embarrassing for her, especially after she made such a big deal about him being the love of her life. They got married twice just two years ago. This has to be some kind of record—they’re not exactly kids.”
And the part about Ben not contributing? That’s probably the most accurate thing about their relationship. Apparently, Ben wasn’t too eager to spend money on anything. If there was a bill, he’d find a way to dodge it, leaving JLo to cover the tab. People close to her say this was one of the things that pissed her off the most. She was the one burning through her bank account to keep up their fancy celebrity lifestyle.
A source broke it down, saying, “One of the things people don’t know is that Jennifer footed a lot of their bills during the marriage, and now she feels like Ben owes her. She’s tallying up everything—private jet flights, hotels, meals, clothes, even coffee runs and gas. Basically, she covered the cost of their lifestyle. She even paid for most of that $60 million mansion they bought. Now, she’s claiming Ben took advantage of her financially—at least, that’s what she’s telling people.”
And now that Ben’s ready to walk away, Jennifer isn’t planning on letting him off easy—she’s going after everything she thinks he owes her, starting with his money. Apparently, she’s demanding a full accounting of what each of them spent and wants all the money back that she put in. But that’s just the beginning.
Recently, insiders have said that Jennifer is the one holding up the divorce, not because she wants to save the marriage, but because she wants to force Ben to stay. Ben’s team even put out stories in the media, claiming he’s holding off on filing for divorce because he’s trying to protect her. There were also rumors that Jennifer hasn’t fully accepted the breakup and is heartbroken that her fairy tale marriage is over. But it turns out she’s just hanging on because she’s embarrassed—especially since almost everyone in her circle warned her about getting back with Ben, but she didn’t listen.
An insider shared, “Nobody in JLo’s circle, except her mom, likes Ben Affleck. They think he’s an arrogant jerk.” The source also mentioned that Ben and JLo’s manager, Benny Medina, can’t stand each other. There’s been bad blood between them since 2003 when JLo fired Benny—apparently because of Ben. Benny didn’t think Ben was good for Jennifer, and they clashed a lot. As usual, JLo put her relationship above everything else, and she ended up paying for it when the engagement fell apart. It took her 20 years to get back on track with Benny’s help, but she risked it all again by getting back with Ben, even after her best friend Leah Remini warned her. This led to a big fight between them that almost ended their friendship. Leah was so upset that she didn’t even attend the wedding.
Sure enough, everything her friends warned her about started happening just two years into the marriage. JLo’s inner circle believes Ben’s been treating her badly ever since the divorce rumors started. They’ve noticed that he’s become pretty unpleasant to be around. One insider said, “Ben was so happy all through 2023, but this year, he’s like a completely different person. He’s got a lot on his plate, but it’s making him miserable to be around.”
This isn’t the first time JLo’s friends have complained about Ben’s behavior. Another source shared that Ben’s been making life hard for Jennifer since they got married. “If people knew what she’s really been through, they’d be a lot more understanding. Ben’s a great guy, but he can be moody and bring others down. I think the world saw that in those Grammy photos last year when he wouldn’t smile. If people knew what it was really like, they wouldn’t be so hard on her. He smokes constantly, curses a lot, and is often irritated. He’s a brilliant director and actor, but not exactly the life of the party. But to be fair, he is a great dad,” they said.
Jenny’s had enough—she’s tried her best, but she’s reached her limit. Things aren’t getting better; in fact, they’re getting worse. This doesn’t seem like someone who’s just sad about a breakup—it feels more like she’s done with Ben’s antics and ready to move on. Sure, she might be both sad and frustrated, but from what we’ve heard, JLo seems more embarrassed than anything else. She fell for Ben’s charm again, even spent her own money trying to make their relationship work, only to be let down. Anyone would feel humiliated if their husband started cozying up to his ex before the divorce papers were even signed.
Ben and his ex, Jennifer Garner, have been seen together multiple times, and Ben’s wedding ring is always missing. Even before he bought his new house, Jen Garner was spotted pulling up to his rental, trying to stay under the radar. Word on the street is that this was Ben’s plan all along. His heart was always with Jen, who, unlike JLo, shares his values—no social media for the kids, avoiding the paparazzi, keeping things private. Now that JLo’s out of the picture, he can be with the woman he truly wants and live his happily ever after with his kids. It’s hard to blame Ben for following his heart, but using JLo to figure out his feelings at this stage in life seems pretty unfair.
But JLo isn’t taking this lightly. According to a source, she’s ready to go after Ben if he doesn’t clean up this mess. The source said, “She didn’t give up on their marriage—he did. And she’s feeling burned and wants payback. If he had stuck around like he was supposed to, maybe she would have let it go, but he walked away, and Jennifer always gets even.” She’s not just looking to recoup the money she put into the relationship either. Allegedly, she’s planning to spill all of Ben’s secrets, like how he used her money to fuel his gambling and drinking habits.
What’s wild is that they’re telling a completely different story to the media. Recent reports claim that neither of them wants to rush the separation. “They’re handling this with as much grace, understanding, and care as possible. They don’t want their kids to feel blindsided. They’re both trying to make this transition smooth and healthy.”
But honestly, “smooth and healthy” must have a new definition because nothing about this situation seems to fit that description.
So, what do you think? Is JLo still hung up on Ben, or is he just being unnecessarily harsh with how he’s handling the divorce? Let us know in the comments
