Jen has always been someone who loves being in love. She once told him he was the love of her life, and they’d be together forever. But then she laughed and said, “That was three husbands and five engagements ago.” Actually, it’s been four marriages and six engagements.
“You’ve got to love yourself first; that’s where it all starts,” she said. “I was on this journey, trying to figure out what it really means to love yourself. I knew I couldn’t truly love anyone again until I figured that out. It’s the most important thing. I don’t think he’s entirely comfortable with everything I’m doing, but he loves me. He knows I’m an artist, and he’s going to support me because he gets it—he can’t stop me from making the music I want to make or writing the words I need to write. That’s just who I am. It’s not that he wants to stop me; it’s just that he’s not totally cool with being the muse.”
Chen was really inspired by this whole experience because that’s how artists work—they draw from their personal lives. It’s what moves them. I know, as a writer and director, I do the same thing. But private things have always felt sacred to me, partly because they’re private.
And now, JLo’s love life drama is all over the place again. Just when we thought she and Ben Affleck were finally getting their happy ending, it looks like the fairy tale might be falling apart. Word on the street is they’re about to file for divorce any day now, just a few months after JLo dropped her documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told, where she couldn’t stop talking about how Ben was “the one.” But let’s be real—hasn’t JLo said that about every guy she’s dated or married? It’s starting to feel like she’s more in love with the idea of love than the actual men.
So, what’s really going on here? Is JLo just hooked on romance, or is there something deeper—and maybe even darker—lurking beneath the surface? Let’s bring in her first husband, Ohan Noah, who’s got some juicy details to share. According to him, the only person JLo has ever truly loved is—wait for it—herself. And here’s the kicker: Ohan actually predicted that JLo and Ben’s reunion in 2021 wouldn’t last. Back then, everyone brushed him off as just another bitter ex, but now? Looks like he might have been onto something.
But hold up, it gets even crazier. An old interview with Ohan has popped back up, and he’s not just spilling tea—he’s practically flooding the place. He’s claiming that JLo uses some seriously spooky stuff to keep her relationships going—we’re talking dark magic and love spells. Yep, you read that right. Ohan is suggesting that JLo might be dabbling in witchcraft to keep the romance alive. It sounds wild, but in Hollywood? Anything’s possible.
So, what did Ohan really say about JLo’s love life? And how was he so sure that Ben would be the next one to walk away? Let’s break it down.
“This was something I had to adjust to,” JLo admitted. “But hey, she’s still got her looks, her curves, and her bank account, so… bye, boy!”
She added to him, “Puppy, this isn’t about me and you, puppy. Leave that out. No, seriously—this is real; that’s not part of the script.”
Jennifer Lopez has had her fair share of high-profile romances and more than a few marriages that could make anyone’s head spin. But now, with the rumor mill buzzing about a possible divorce from Ben Affleck, it’s time to take a messy trip down memory lane and see what her exes have had to say about what really makes this self-proclaimed hopeless romantic tick.
“I was never used to being alone,” JLo reflected. “I grew up in a big family—cousins, aunts, my grandma—they were always around. So, when I finally had to be on my own, I realized how uncomfortable I was being alone. I had to figure out how to deal with that, you know?”
“But what were you afraid of?” someone asked. “Does it have anything to do with your desire to be in show business and always in the spotlight?”
“I’m not sure. I don’t really think so,” JLo replied. “Some people might make that connection because it seems easy to. ‘Oh, she doesn’t like being alone, so she surrounds herself with people.’ But that’s never felt like the reason to me.”
So, let’s rewind to 1997, when Jennifer Lopez was just breaking into Hollywood with her role in Selena. That same year, she married her first husband, Cuban actor and producer Ohan Noah.
“Jennifer Lopez, congratulations—you just got married!”
“Yep, I did. We’ve been married for a month and four days now.”
“So, how long did you two know each other before tying the knot?”
“A year.”
“And that was enough?”
“More than enough.”
“Didn’t take much convincing, huh?”
JLo and Ohan’s romance was brief, lasting just 11 months before they called it quits. But Ohan wasn’t about to disappear quietly—he had plans to write a tell-all book about their relationship. However, JLo wasn’t having any of it and hit him with a lawsuit, which she won, effectively shutting down his book idea.
Things got even more interesting when Ohan later revealed that jealousy played a big role in their breakup. He mentioned that JLo had started stepping out with P. Diddy while she was still married to him, which stirred up a lot of tension.
Ohan told the Daily Mail, “I asked Jen why she was going out with him on dates, and she said, ‘It’s just business; this is what I’m being told I have to do.’ I was jealous and would scream, ‘But you’re married!’” Turns out, Ohan had every right to be suspicious because JLo did go on to date Diddy publicly for two years.
Reflecting on the time, someone close to the situation said, “I had my own sparks, you know what I’m saying? Look, Ohan, my sparks were just flying all over the place.”
“She was married at the time. I was in my own relationship, so I had to practice self-control. We became friends first—we were both dancers, both ambitious, both workaholics. At first, all those things worked in our favor. Then there was this one rehearsal where we had to hold each other for some salsa dancing. I looked into her eyes, and right then and there, I just fell in love. It was like love at first sight.”
“She was larger than life, but honestly, at first, I didn’t like him at all. I thought he was, you know, not my type. I was very family-oriented; that’s how I was raised. But as we got to know each other, we became friends first and then developed this bond. We both understood where we were in life, and nobody else really got it. So, in that way, we kind of bonded.”
As for Diddy, he later told People in 2006 that of all his high-profile relationships, “Jennifer was one of the great ones.” But given what we know about Diddy now, being called “great” by Sean “Diddy” Combs might be more of a warning sign than a compliment.
Anyway, fast forward to JLo’s next romance and second marriage, this time with dancer Chris Judd. They met on the set of her “Love Don’t Cost a Thing” music video, right after her breakup with Diddy in 2001.
“When Jennifer walked in, I shook her hand, and we kind of looked at each other. In my head, I was like, ‘Oh my God, I’m going to marry this woman.’ That’s what I said to myself. ‘Holy crap.’”
JLo and Chris had a whirlwind romance—they met, fell in love, and tied the knot all in the same year. But it didn’t take long for things to fall apart; less than a year later, JLo filed for divorce. Chris hinted that she didn’t really try to make the marriage work, telling Us Weekly, “I can’t say why her relationships don’t last. Marriage is work. It’s about whether you’re willing to put in the effort. You can’t just walk away when things get tough.”
Living their relationship in the public eye didn’t help either. Chris admitted it was tough, especially since JLo wasn’t exactly trying to keep things low-key.
“It’s really hard,” Chris said. “Your privacy is gone. You’re no longer just a regular person. Our wedding was like a circus—people got arrested trying to sneak in, and we even had to rent out the airspace.”
While Chris was still nursing his heartbreak, JLo quickly moved on, rekindling her romance with singer Marc Anthony, who she had a brief fling with back in the late ’90s. Marc soon became JLo’s third husband. They had twins, Max and Emme, but even the kids couldn’t keep their marriage from falling apart.
“I just couldn’t hold it together anymore,” JLo shared. “I was about to go on set, and suddenly, I felt this overwhelming anxiety. I was like, ‘I can’t do this anymore. I don’t think I can be with Marc.’”
JLo and Marc got married in June 2004, just a week after Marc finalized his divorce from his first wife, Dayanara Torres, with whom he has two sons. This, of course, led to rumors that JLo was a homewrecker. But if we’re being honest, Marc’s the one with the complicated love life—he’s got seven kids with three different women.
In July 2011, JLo and Marc announced their separation in a statement to E! News. You’d think after her third divorce and with two young kids, JLo might take a break from dating. But nope, she didn’t stay single for long. Less than three months after the breakup, she was already making headlines again in November 2011, stepping out with a new guy—backup dancer Casper Smart, who was 18 years younger.
Casper later told Hola! magazine, “I was 23 or 24, she was 42 with two kids. But in that moment, everything just clicked. We spent every day together for a year.”
JLo and Casper met while shooting the music video for “Dance Again” and had a very public relationship that lasted about two and a half years. But then, JLo met former New York Yankee star Alex Rodriguez, who later said that meeting Jennifer was the luckiest day of his life. JLo quickly broke things off with Casper and went public with Alex in 2017.
They even played that cute couple game on Instagram: “Okay, who initiated the first kiss? Who apologizes first after a fight? Who’s the funny one? Who’s more romantic? Who’s the most patient? Who’s the better cook? Who said ‘I love you’ first? Who takes longer to get ready? You, definitely. Who’s grumpier in the morning? Who’s more stubborn? Who’s the bigger baby when sick? Who’s the social butterfly? Who’s the messy one? Who spends the most money?”
About two years later, during a dreamy vacation in the Bahamas, Alex proposed with a massive diamond ring. But despite the big engagement, they kept pushing off the wedding, blaming it on the pandemic. But COVID wasn’t the only issue. By April 2021, their relationship was over—and guess who JLo was spotted with that very same month? None other than Ben Affleck.
When rumors started flying that Bennifer was back, JLo didn’t waste a second wiping all traces of A-Rod from her Instagram. It was almost like her PR team flipped a switch, and suddenly, stories were popping up everywhere suggesting A-Rod might have cheated and that he just couldn’t let go of her. According to someone close to JLo, she straight-up told Alex that Ben was her everything now, but A-Rod just couldn’t take the hint.
One insider said, “She gets that she and Alex were together for five years, that they were planning to get married, and everyone was rooting for them. But it’s over. JLo wants him to move on and wishes him well.”
But here’s the thing—back when JLo and A-Rod got engaged in 2019, she was all about how he was her forever partner and soulmate. It’s almost like she has these big declarations on repeat. A source told People at the time, “They are incredible together—very much soulmates that bring out the best in each other and are so supportive. From the start, they moved quickly. Their relationship was always very passionate. Jennifer quickly fell hard for Alex, and she quickly started planning for the future.”
But if you know anything about JLo, you know she falls out of love just as fast as she falls in. So when she left her “soulmate” A-Rod in the dust the moment Ben came back into the picture, you can bet A-Rod was feeling some type of way about it. Sources close to him said he was really shocked at how quickly she moved on because he genuinely thought they could work things out.
“He’s been reaching out to JLo, trying to meet up with her, but she’s been really short with him,” one source said, adding that Alex was pretty heartbroken about her reunion with Ben. But JLo? She made it clear she was done and wasn’t interested in rekindling anything with A-Rod.
And that’s when A-Rod started throwing some shade—like when he posted a photo of himself next to the red Porsche he gave JLo for her 50th birthday with the caption, “I’m super down to earth.”
On the other side, sources close to Alex said he was really annoyed by how fake JLo seemed. Remember when she blamed the media for wrecking her wedding plans with Ben back in 2004? Fast forward to 2021, and she was soaking up every bit of media attention she could get with their reunion.
But now, it seems like A-Rod might be getting the last laugh. Sure, he’s being a little petty, but honestly, who can blame him? There’s gossip going around that Alex has been telling his friends he thinks JLo was actually cheating on him with Ben while they were still together. He’s apparently convinced that all the drama JLo’s going through now is just karma.
A source told In Touch that A-Rod still feels some kind of way about how JLo dumped him and moved on with Ben just weeks after their breakup.
“Alex was devastated when JLo ran off with Ben,” the source said. “He felt like she tossed him aside as soon as she got a better offer from Ben, and it really messed him up. He went from planning a wedding to watching her marry someone else in what felt like the blink of an eye. It was the worst year of his life.”
And to top it all off, JLo didn’t seem to care at all. She flaunted her romance with Ben every chance she got. And now, with those divorce rumors between JLo and Ben swirling around, A-Rod seems to be enjoying the drama, according to insiders.
“To see her getting some karma for her actions is pretty sweet, even if A-Rod wouldn’t admit that publicly,” one source said. “His friends all know he’s been waiting for things with her and Ben to crash and burn.”
The source added that Alex feels like he dodged a bullet by not marrying JLo and said, “That doesn’t mean he’s not going to enjoy watching this train wreck. He still has a lot of resentment towards JLo and feels justified in it.”
But you know who else is getting a kick out of the JLo and Ben drama? Her first husband, Ojani Noa. He’s definitely having his “I told you so” moment since he was the first to say publicly that JLo and Ben wouldn’t last. When JLo and Ben Affleck tied the knot in Vegas in July 2022, nearly two decades after they called off their first wedding, it was supposed to be the ultimate fairy tale. It was like proof that true love is worth the wait, and after three failed marriages, JLo was finally marrying the man she always claimed was her real soulmate. But while everyone else was swooning over the Bennifer reunion, Ojani Noa, JLo’s first husband, wasn’t buying it.
He told Daily Mail at the time that JLo once told him he was her forever guy, and in Ojani’s words, “That was three husbands and five engagements ago. I wish her and Ben the best, but I’m not convinced it will last,” Ojani said. “Jen loves being in love, but she’s been engaged six times. Ben is husband number four. I was husband number one, and she told me I was the love of her life. On our wedding night, she said we would be together forever.”
Ojani also revealed that after JLo started sneaking around with Diddy, her team encouraged him to fake it for the cameras, even traveling to Chicago to film an interview with Oprah about their marriage.
“Ohan shared that Oprah knew they were going through some tough times. ‘I was sitting in the audience, thinking Oprah might come to me because we had talked about it earlier. But instead, Oprah asked Jen, ‘I hear you guys are having problems.’ And with that beautiful smile, Jen just said, ‘No, everything is amazing,’ or something like that.’
Ohan went on to reveal that he lost 40 pounds from the stress of trying to save his marriage, while their life became a total lie. But here’s where it gets even more dramatic: that’s not the craziest thing Ohan has said about JLo. An old interview has popped up again, where Ohan accused JLo of using witchcraft and love spells to get what she wants.
Remember when JLo scored the role of Selena, the late Mexican-American singer, in the 1997 biopic? People were already raising eyebrows back then because she wasn’t Mexican and didn’t have much acting experience. Rumors were flying that JLo might have actually used witchcraft to land the part.
‘There are so many aspects to it,’ someone said. ‘The accent, the singing, the dancing. She was an incredible performer. I’m not a singer, and I’ve never performed as one. I’m a dancer, so I’d be singing, but the mic would be off to the side, and you’d be like, ‘Yeah, you,’ oh, the mic, you know? Because it wasn’t really my voice.’
These witchcraft rumors have been around since the ’90s, and Ohan Noah just added fuel to the fire by claiming JLo used voodoo spells on him and other lovers. Claudia Vasquez, who dated Ohan after JLo, backed him up, telling Spanish media that JLo practices Santeria and even used spells to land her role as Selena.
‘I’ve heard she’s into some pretty scary stuff,’ Claudia shared. ‘Jennifer has a godmother in Miami, someone I’ve never met, but Ohan knows her. She would call this woman and say things like, ‘Do this to this person,’ ‘Light a black candle,’ and so on. She’s done amarres—spells—on all her boyfriends. It’s pretty common for people involved in Santeria. But even with all that, she always ends up leaving them.’
Claudia also mentioned that JLo used Santeria to beat out Salma Hayek for the lead role in Selena.
But wait—it gets even juicier. There are rumors that JLo used her connections with powerful industry figures to get the Selena role, with whispers that Mariah Carey’s ex-husband and former Sony Music CEO Tommy Mottola was involved. Although JLo and Tommy’s relationship was never confirmed, there were rumors at the time that JLo was one of Tommy’s alleged mistresses, with the affair supposedly happening while she was filming Selena.
And here’s the kicker—in 1998, JLo showed up at the Grammy Awards with Tommy Mottola, and shortly after, it was announced that she had signed a record deal with Sony. Coincidence? You decide.
So, what do you think about JLo’s tangled love life? What do you make of Ohan Noah’s comments? And could there be any truth to those witchcraft rumors? Share your thoughts in the comments below
